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Kiddush Shabbat Candle Lighting Times

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Shabbat Candle Lighting
October 19
 5:49 PM
Shabbat Ends
Shabbat, October 20
6:47 PM

Parshah: Noach  

Birthdays & Yahrtzeits A Bit of Humor

This Week's Birthdays
{To have your birthday listed here, please call the office}
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Mathew Repanes, Robert Steinberg
Dr. Jeff Goldstein, Stephen Bender
Cody Perel, Tal Keshet
David Valdman, Ilana Bromberg
Susan Herman, Rachel Kaufman
Rachel Sacher, Dani Schatz
Esther Heimer, Julia Kosches
Lawrence Gustavson, Leah Gustavson


This Week's Yahrtzeits

{Based on Hebrew date}
David Berez, Shirley Astrakon
Hyman Newmark, Martha Rosenzweig
Ruth Roberts, Lob Rosenthal
Sam I. Richter, Shirley Saland

To have your loved one’s yartzeit listed here, please contact The Chai Center

Drug War
Morris was just coming out of anesthesia after a series of tests in the hospital, and his wife, Miriam, was sitting at his bedside. His eyes fluttered open, and he murmured, "You're beautiful."
Flattered, Miriam continued her vigil while he drifted back to sleep. Later he woke up and said, "You're cute."
"What happened to 'beautiful'?" Miriam asked.
"I guess the drugs must be wearing off," he replied.

Yeshiva Food
Dovid and Shlomo are older students at the Yeshiva and they decided that they were fed up with living in the dorms with the lousy Yeshiva food. So they decided to rent an apartment and cook food for themselves.
"Did you get us a cook book? Dovid asked.
“I did, but I don’t like it,” Shlomo replied.
"Why, are the recipes too hard?" asked Dovid.
"Exactly!” Shlomo replied. “Every recipe begins the same way, 'Take a clean dish and...'"

I was listening to the radio extremely early one morning this week, and the newscaster was talking about how mental disorders have increased exponentially over the past few years. So much so, that the United Kingdom has established a new governmental (notice the word has mental in it) department called The Department of Suicide and Self Harm Prevention. The newscaster went on to say, that globally, the loss of money due to mental health in terms of loss of productivity, medical needs, and pharmacy needs have reached the heavy trillions (I do not remember the exact amount).
I asked myself the minute this report concluded, why?  Why over the past few years has there been such an upsurge in mental health cases? I think any reasonable person should ask themselves the same question. What has changed that has caused this rise?
I, as a simple Rabbi in suburbia, do not claim to have the answer, but in my peripheral vision I do see a major change in the past 20 years or so. I may be on to something. What say you?

Observation 1
Many of our children growing up today —just like many of us grown-ups, have endless exposure to everything and everybody with the push of a button; this can create deep chaos and confusion. It used to be you grew up with the friends that lived down the block, or with your classmates. It was at college that you met real strangers for the first time. But today, with that little toy in your pocket, you have instant access to 7 billion people—and you got to choose from them. That’s a heavy choice for an 11 year old!
It used to be that there were certain things you did not share with your child as it is inappropriate and would be deleterious to their health if they knew certain goings on in the world. I remember one of my kids saw the video of the hanging of Saadam Hussein (in our house, we used to call him Saadam Insane). It was not a healthy video and how I wished my child had not seen it. In fact, I wished that my child had not shown it to me either. It was damaging for me, let alone a child. 
One suggestion I have is to install an internet filter in your house and restrict access on your child’s cellphone. Your child should NOT be able to go on any and every website they desire. It is unhealthy and may have long term undesirable ramifications.  Furthermore, to me, a computer in a bedroom behind a closed door is a recipe for trouble, if not disaster.

Observation 2
Our kids are too darn busy.
Between school, homework, Honor Society, soccer, hockey, flag football, basketball, music class, ballet, dance, hip hop, National Merit Society, and who knows what else, who has time to be a kid when you have so much else to do? We, as parents, want our kids to be the best they can be, and I get that, but in the process we have made them into machines/robots instead of kids. It is no wonder Hebrew School attendance across the Island has diminished. Who has time for yet another activity.
My suggestion is slow the heck down!! Pick one or two activities and that is it. Genug/enough/basta. Make children kids again. There is way too much pressure from every avenue and it is unhealthy.
I would rather my kid be a happy kid than one that is pushed to the maximum in academics and/or sports to the point that he/she becomes unhappy.

The above are just my two cents.  Please feel free to contact me at

200K HIGH HOLIDAY CAMPAIGN - WE ARE ABOUT ½ WAY. We have raised just over $75K of the $150K needed to trigger the donor!
The Chai Center has been challenged by a unique and generous donor who will donate $50,000 if we raise $150,000.  Please help us get to this number as we could seriously use the funds and more. LOG ONTO  WWW.THECHAICENTER.COM/HH2018 to make your donation.  We can facilitate corporate matching funds as well.  Thank you for helping us raise these important funds for The Chai Center!

Over the last few month we have started a nightly Mincha and Marriv Minyan every weeknight at 7:00pm.
We have 4 of our dear friends in the community that are saying Kadish at the moment for their loved ones, and each and every night (most nights)  is a struggle to get a Minyan.
We are asking people to commit one or two nights a week to assure that they will be able to say.
The Minyan starts at 7:00 pm and is over at 7:20.
Please click HERE and write which nights you can commit to coming. Lets come together as a community and help each other.

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6 weeks: Tuesdays, October 23, 30, November 6,13,20,27
7:30 – 9:00pm                          
Cost: $89 per person; $150 for couples; includes all student materials.
  Here to register.

Beginning October 23, 2018, The Chai Center will offer the JLI course, Wrestling with Faith, a new six-session course by the acclaimed Rohr Jewish Learning Institute (JLI), that openly addresses common challenges people have in their relationship with G‑d. Participants in the course will grapple with issues that many struggle with, including beliefs in Judaism that seem primitive or outdated, reconciling scientific findings with ideas that cannot be proven in a lab, and the role of religion regarding gender roles, relationship choices, and other such controversial issues.
The course is based on the curriculum written by master sages of the internationally-recognized Jewish Learning Institute (JLI), the world’s preeminent provider of Jewish learning. JLI offers programs in more than 800 locations in the U.S. and abroad.
Watch this 
video for more information on what this course will discuss.

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Wednesdays, November 28, December 5, 12, 19
Cost: $50

This course will clarify the mystique surrounding our purpose, our souls, and will unravel the secrets of creation. Find out about the DNA of your soul; where it comes from and what powers it has. Register  HERE.

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Due to the overwhelming response to our awesome preschool, we now proudly offer a second 2 year old class 3 times a week! This is great for parents who only wish to enroll their toddler part time. Please call the office at 631 351 8672.


From the Desk of the Chai Center Israel Committee
Anyone who loves and supports Israel, no matter your political affiliation, was saddened and perhaps a bit nervous at the news this week that Nikki Haley, the US Ambassador to the UN, would 
step down from her post by year’s end. The indefatigable Haley is one of the strongest pro-Israel voices to grace the tarnished halls of the UN. In vote after vote, Haley, often alone, called out the international body for its anti-Semitic hypocrisy in singling out Israel for criticism. Against that stellar record, many of us are worried about who will follow. For now, though, we take this opportunity to thank her, wish her well in the next leg of her journey, and let her know we Jews and lovers of Zion will be there for her when she someday calls upon us—perhaps at the voting booth. Nikki Haley—Hero of the Week, and beyond.

Thank you to all who nominated this week's heroes and villains. If you would like nominate a Hero (someone doing right by Israel and the Jewish people) or Villain (someone doing her and us harm) of the Week, email Allan Richter at


Junior Congregation – Join us every Saturday!
Did you know that the Chai Center has a new and improved Junior Congregation every Shabbat morning from 11:00 – 12:15.  The children have a great time and learn many fascinating things. Call Rabbi Dovid at 351-8672 if you have questions or just come.

Shabbat & Weekly Services This Week's Classes

FRIDAY EVENING           6:00 PM (Following Cholent & Whiskey)
SATURDAY NIGHT          7:05 PM

SUNDAY               9:40 – 10:30am The Weekly Torah Portion
MONDAY             8:00am Daily Tanya Class
MONDAY             7:00pm Jewish Law  
TUESDAY             8:00am Daily Tanya Class
WEDNESDAY      8:00am Daily Tanya Class
THURSDAY          8:00am Daily Tanya Class
FRIDAY                 8:00am Daily Tanya Class
SHABBAT             9:00am The Kabbalistic take on the Parsha

Business Spotlight  




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Thought for the Week

Story of the Week
You Must Be Happy
The Rebbe once commented to a shliach - Lubavitcher emissary in a private audience, "Nu, what's going on? Why are you so angry? What is the reason you are not happy? I told you that I wanted you to be joyous. If you do not do my work with happiness, then you are not fulfilling my will, and you are not performing in the same way that I am. Because I cannot be everywhere at once, I cannot be in Holon, Kfar Chabad, Tel Aviv, Jerusalem, Eilat, Paris or Melbourne — and in Brooklyn - I Therefore, send out shluchim. I chose you to go to ----- and I want to make you a high commander, a general. I would hope that knowing what I want would be a source of joy that would stay with you — just knowing that the one who is being commanded is doing what his commander wants."

Chai Center Preschool

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Hebrew School, CTeen & STP

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Friendship Circle Highlights

We are so impressed with the turnout for our volunteer training.  Thank you to everyone who came.
Please join us Sunday Oct. 14 from 6-8pm for our first ever BOUNCE Fundraiser, organized by our Teen Leadership Board Fundraising Committee Chair  Morgan Paul to benefit the Friendship Circle.

If you are a returning volunteer please fill out an update of information form  HERE.   If you are a first time volunteer please register  HERE

Musical Theater Program:  We still need volunteers for the play.  Even if you can only come one week, we need substitute volunteers for our regular volunteers that can not attend.  We need volunteers to help with building and painting sets, doing makeup the day of the show, and helping us track down the items we need for props.  Any family member may volunteer to help with this project.   If you are interested please contact us at  Volunteers who wish to help on a weekly basis, rehearsals for the Lion King Jr. take place at the Chai Center Sundays, 11:45pm-3pm on the following days: Oct. 14, 21, 28,  Nov. 4, 18,  Dec. 2, 9, Jan. 6.  Show will be performed Jan. 12 or Jan. 13.  Dress rehearsal Thursday Jan. 10.

Music Therapy will begin Oct. 15th,  6 week session, $75 dates are Oct. 15, 22, 29, Nov. 5, 19, 26.  Sign up on the website.

Hip Hop session one remaining dates are Oct. 17, 24,  Nov. 7 &14.  Class is at the Chai Center Wednesdays 5-5:45pm. 

Computer Coding Class  - Please watch for emails regarding the location and time of our new computer coding class.   Tuesdays Oct. 16, 23, 30, Nov. 6, 13. 

Teen Scene returns Oct. 21

and  Puppy Fun returns Oct. 28

If you would like to be part of the Friendship Circle, please go to our website and fill out this year's registration forms.  Volunteers please find your forms under the volunteer tab on our website.

If you have any questions we can be contacted at

We hope to see everyone there.



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